Sibling rivalry can often determine the hand with parents in the middle of an adventurous journey to blame. So here's a common scenario: The children sit at the table. Check the dishes and a child starts to complain that Child B was more in his blueberry pancakes! Why? accusations start flying, and must be the child of B for which they gave more blueberries!
You can replace "blueberries" with anything imaginable: a larger piece of desserts> Toys, more time and attention, and also the blog of a frustrated mother's ... bubbles in a drink. Parents become artists sculpt and pay all sorts of things in the same amount and the federal government about whether a child receives more than another. It might seem easier to just stick in another Blueberry Pancake, the number to make himself and "fair", but when it ever end? Sometimes, giving the exact same amount for each child is not an option, what can a parent do to prevent painFeelings?
It 'easy to get away with this rivalry, which, to be removed, what with parents scrambling to keep everyone satisfied. However, as a parent is to love is dangerous for a child or are accused of less unjust - especially if you take the trouble to prepare a nice dinner, went alone to face the charges. For children, this constant comparison and analysis if the parent company is helping another child is not healthy. Through it, you areValidation that, yes, that love blueberry extra = extra. Stay cool and draw a child that there is more blueberries, if you want something more, and keep it from being just about ... well ... Blueberries.
Instead of all "equal", you can try to find the children about the situation in relation to the "need". For example: "Are you still hungry?" We always more if you want ____". When you divide your time between the children to think instead of "I'm1 hour spent with a child, so I should now spend some 'time with the Baby B, a child, even if the requirements are not fully satisfied, you share your time, if necessary. devote the time a child needs are whether it is the plan her birthday party or help with homework, and if you both over for Child B left, so be it. Explain to child B, which his brother, and you have to do something important and he will only be patient. If you pay attention to a child, somuch more than be a concern, for example, if a child has special needs, is also a good idea to allocate a certain amount of time for your other child (ren). Make this special time with just the two of you where you can give your attention. Although it is only 15 minutes a day, can count on and make sure you think of him as well, and not feel so much anger and uncertainty that needs to fight. Mom-son-days are also great way to bond without the distractionthe other brothers.
All agree with a brother is likely that the obsession is as if all the fear that your parents favored one of you legs. Listen to convince your children you love them all "equal", but you all love on several occasions only because they are all different, unique people. It is not loving you more or less, you can not quantify and compare for love when it comes to your children. No matter how hard youMeasure be moments of injustice. While it must be hard to see the disappointment and anger of a child may feel in these moments, because they know that Understand and accept their feelings will help them adapt to life of injustice. Your child will learn, patience, empathy and that not everything in life is perfect, "equal" and measurable ... is in order.
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